Just Me

Apr 14

First day back at a gym

I recently signed up for planet fitness. Today was my first day and I am tired.

Apr 09

So I am going to go back to my workout regiment. Ive been away for a bit but I am committed again. Lets do this!!!

Apr 06

Anonymous asked: I've been unemployed for 1 year. Looking at all the applications that i've sent is enough to make me cry! I've lost my confidence and feel so ashamed of myself. Everyone is doing something with their lives except me! My biggest fear is that nobody will hire me!! :(


Firstly, the simple fact that you are sending applications and taking measures to leave your state of unemployment is a huge deal and you should be more than proud of yourself for that. Secondly, why be afraid? Whatever the outcome, wether accepted or rejected, you should see it as what it is: your path being unfolded right in front of you. If a job application gets denied, then that was simply not what destiny had for you, it wasn’t meant for you, and that’s that. Their reply should never dictate your worth or emotional state of being, because it doesn’t define you. You define yourself.

Fear is a habit, so is self-pity, defeat, anxiety, despair, hopelessness and resignation. You can eliminate all of these negative habits with two simple resolves,” I can! and I will!” Fear is a normal part of learning and accomplishment. Almost any definition of courage alludes to the fact that being courageous means getting stuff done when you’re afraid. Courage is not the absence of fear, it’s the willingness to keep moving in spite of the fear.

When fears, uncertainties and ambiguities are unfamiliar, they can seem larger. So, the best recipe for success involves creating a context in which the fears become more familiar. Looking for work requires the development of routines and patterns that you may not have in place. By establishing your own order and predictability, you can make friends with your fears and harness them.

Here are ten things you can do to create a routine that will harness your anxieties:

  1. Morning Routine: Wake up at the same time each morning, weekends included. Do the same three things in the same order each day. Brush your teeth, take a shower get dressed. Have coffee, plan the day, take a shower. It doesn’t matter what. Pick three and repeat.
  2. First Call of The Day: Always make a call to a friend or family member at the same time each day. Make it the first work thing that you do. Talk about the weather, the family or your job hunt. Make friendship a high priority.
  3. Bedtime Ritual: Take 30 minutes to get ready for bed. Do the same things in the same order. Go to bed early enough to get eight hours (no more). Do things that help you unwind so that when you hit the pillow, you are ready to sleep.
  4. Good Night’s Sleep: Getting a good night’s sleep is key to being an effective job hunter. Make your bed an oasis. Make the rule that you don’t look for work when you’re in bed. If you wish to worry, get out of bed, write the worries down and then get back to sleep.
  5. Log Your Work: Looking for work involves chasing wild geese. Keep track of who you’ve talked to, which companies received your resume, interviews completed and phone calls made. When you’re feeling like you haven’t made progress, the documentation will really help.
  6. Measure Your Progress: Set goals and standards for each day’s work. Setting and keeping objectives will help you maintain the sense that you are moving forward. Set reasonable goals for repeated daily actions. Over the course of six weeks, 7 resumes sent, 10 phone calls made (at least leaving a message) and 3 phone calls completed (actually talking to someone about your work) is a good standard.
  7. Spiritual Practice: Pray, meditate, go to church, read inspirational books, listen to a motivational tape, visualize success, visit natural beauty. Whatever your spiritual discipline, set aside at least thirty minutes each day to get in touch with the larger forces that influence your life.
  8. Exercise: Another half hour commitment. Moving your body will move your mind. Walk, run, lift or ride.
  9. Nutrition: Avoid refined sugars and high fructose corn syrup. These are the dangerous food chemicals that play with your mood. Job changes often produce a few extra pounds around the middle. Watch for emotional eating.
  10. Media Consumption: The economic news is dismal. The world is falling apart. The end is near. You don’t need so much of this right now. Ration your news consumption to 15 minutes per day. Listen to music instead.

The only trouble with a list like this is that no one can do it all, all at once. Find one thing on the list that you aren’t doing and start there. Get good at that one thing for a couple of weeks. Then add another item from the list.

You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn’t exist anywhere except in the mind. You block your dream when you allow your fear to grow bigger than your faith.

Remember, it’s normal to be scared and to have the fear prevent you from getting stuff done. Building small personal routines in these ten areas can help to build a foundation for progress. Good luck.

Wow I have to do this for sure

Apr 03

quote True gender equality is actually perceived as inequality. A group that is made up of 50% women is perceived as being mostly women. A situation that is perfectly equal between men and women is perceived as being biased in favor of women.
And if you don’t believe me, you’ve never been a married woman who kept her family name. I have had students hold that up as proof of my “sexism.”
My own brother told me that he could never marry a woman who kept her name because “everyone would know who ruled that relationship.” Perfect equality – my husband keeps his name and I keep mine – is held as a statement of superiority on my part.

Lucy, When Worlds Collide: Fandom and Male Privilege. (via seaofbadstories)

I might have reblogged this already but it’s so good I don’t care.

(via stfufauxminists)

Kyriarchy in action. (via transstingray)

Also the study where they had women and men talking in a discussion and when women spoke around 30% of the time, men perceived them as dominating the discussion. They didn’t consider it “equal” until something like 5-10% of women talking. (via dumbthingswhitepplsay)

Voila. A beautiful example of why fighting for equality becomes a gross exaggeration in the eyes of the oppressors. (via curiouslycool)

Mar 24

"37 Slogans For College Majors If They Were Actually Honest" →


Accounting: selling your soul for money.

Aerospace Engineering: “it actually is rocket science.”

Anthropology: it’ll get you laid, but it won’t get you paid!

Archeology: if you don’t know what it is, it’s probably ceremonial.

Art History: and you thought making art was pointless!


Mar 20


Friend or foe

Chimpanzees keep track of other group members’ bonding partners and use this knowledge in conflict situations

  • from Max Planck Institute

To know who your opponents’ family and friends are can be of advantage in a conflict situation. Humans make predictions about other people’s social relationships frequently. Whether other animals also have the cognitive skills to track their group mates’ social relationships across time and beyond close kin has so far not been known. Researchers of the Max Planck Institute for Evolutionary Anthropology in Leipzig have now conducted playback experiments with wild-living chimpanzees from Budongo Forest in Uganda. Two hours after a subject attacked or had been attacked by an opponent, the researchers broadcast the recording of a third individual’s aggressive barks from a speaker near the subject. If the call provider was their opponent’s close buddy or kin, subjects looked longer and moved away more often from barks than if the call provider was not a bond partner. This shows that chimpanzees know who their group mates’ kin or non-kin bond partners are and that their behavior may have an impact on them.

Socially living animals cooperate with bonding partners to gain an advantage over others, for example in a fight, when it comes handy to predict who another group member’s potential supporters are. In chimpanzees, the presence of a bonding partner may affect the balance of power between competitors in an aggressive conflict, the outcome of which can increase rank and mating opportunities. Whether chimpanzees are able to keep track of other group member’s kin and non-kind bonding partners has now been subject of a study by Roman Wittig and colleagues of the Max Planck Institute for Evolutionary Anthropology in Leipzig, Germany. “We investigated whether chimpanzees could link two separate aggressive events involving two different opponents by the quality of the relationship between the two opponents, even if the two events were separated in time”, says Roman Wittig” (read more).

(Source: Max Planck Institute; top image: She Knows; bottom image: BBC)

Mar 15

It is official… I changed my major to video game development and am so excited. These pretty nails are ready to go and be creative.

Mar 08

Feb 24


Saturday Morning Breakfast Cereal 

Love bonobos, still funny.

Feb 23


 “you will never look like the girl in the magazine, the girl in the magazine doesn’t look like the girl in the magazine!”

Holy shit



 “you will never look like the girl in the magazine, the girl in the magazine doesn’t look like the girl in the magazine!”

Holy shit

Feb 21


Is it Friday already? Huzzah! We’re getting really sick of the winter cold around here at Threadless HQ, so this week’s Free Tee Friday is dedicated to the prospect of spring. We really hope it comes soon.
Reblog this post by 10 a.m. CT on Monday (2/24) for a chance to win “Springness" by Naranjalidad in your size!



Is it Friday already? Huzzah! We’re getting really sick of the winter cold around here at Threadless HQ, so this week’s Free Tee Friday is dedicated to the prospect of spring. We really hope it comes soon.

Reblog this post by 10 a.m. CT on Monday (2/24) for a chance to win “Springness" by Naranjalidad in your size!

Feb 20


to this day my favorite ethnographic fieldwork story I’ve ever heard came from my former professor, who told us that when she first arrived in the Amazonian village she’d be working in, she wasn’t offered any food at all because her indigenous family had seen her taking multivitamins and therefore thought that white people only ate pills.

Def gave me a little giggle. Love these kinds of stories

Feb 17

Rutgers suspends top anthropology professor for allegedly refusing to teach, report says →


My alma mater. More interesting than your alma mater.

A very amusing read.

Feb 17

When I was 16, I had a fake I.D. and decided to go to a gay bar by myself because some friends bailed on me. While there, an older gentleman bought me a drink. He wasn’t a creeper, and he definitely wasn’t unattractive. I accepted the drink and began talking to him. No big deal. As the hour progressed, I felt myself feeling strange. I mentioned that I felt like I had a headache, and this guy helped guide me out of the bar. As we were walking down the street, the thought of, ‘Oh god, he’s drugged me, I’m going to die’ came to my head. I tried to get away, but I was so drugged up that I could barely walk, let alone speak. It also didn’t help that I had really large ‘goth’ platform shoes because I was going through a phase. Anyway, this guy brought me to his suv and began undressing me. As a final act of defiance, I hit him over the head with my platform shoe. He then punched me, and I remember thinking, ‘Why don’t they ever give workshops to gay guys about being victims of rape too?’ While I was as careful as possible, I never saw the guy slip something in the drink. I even watched the bar tender make the drink. Anyway, I lied there completely paralyzed while this pervert was lubing up. I locked eyes with his for a moment, and that’s when it happened. A very large and angry drag queen opened the door of the vehicle and beat the shit out of my attempted rapist. She and her other drag friends helped dress and care for me while the police arrived. I was saved by a group of guardian drag queens. They were basically the modern day ‘angels from heaven.’










God bless drag queens.

I will always reblog this

Whenever drag queens are present, you best believe they will save the fuckin day.

Oh fuck yes.


If this isn’t on your blog I’m judging you.

Every time a bell rings, a drag queen gets his wings.

God bless drag queen omg


Feb 14

Watch her calculate the change in acceleration of her boot as it transfers momentum to your ass.
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I love this


Watch her calculate the change in acceleration of her boot as it transfers momentum to your ass.

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I love this